“Holding onto Unhappiness”

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“Holding on ” or more simply clinging to someone or something ,I realise is the root cause for most of the problems in our lives.

We humans hold on to everything ,wouldn’t be wrong to say we are “clingers” in a way  ,by that I mean , we are ready to put up with anything but wouldn’t dare face a loss.

For example , we never let go of

our old daunting relationships,

wishes that might never become reality ,

grudges that never seem to end ,

fear which we never overcome ,

bad memories which never seem to vanish ,

let alone the simple things in life-like old clothes that never fits  us or more simply a television we no longer use .Then how on earth would we be happy ?

By happiness I mean, not the kind of happiness which you feel on achieving something materialistically , that might give you a sense of achievement or  false pride , but is nothing close to the real happiness which makes the soul bloom.

According to me  happiness is an ideal state , where  our mind and heart seem to be in perfect harmony and are engulfed with  a feeling of  serenity , no matter what the surrounding conditions are .

Unfortunately as I said this is an ideal state  and from my own life experiences I know reaching this phase or maybe even closer to this , is a journey needing constant introspection, to spot  the seeds of our unhappiness and then uproot it forever, before it even spreads within us creating more chaos.It might be hard to keep doing this process of detoxification , but  nothing is impossible and  its never too late to start trying .

One small but do-able solution I discovered  is “to declutter our minds”constantly on  a regular basis .By that I mean  finding a solution to the cause of the trouble  once and  for all, rather than dealing with the trouble itself again and again.This can help us  discover our true identities ,which otherwise would have stayed buried within us,  only because we never got time off   solving our —-” cluttered knots”.

In order to unleash the better and happy “U”, one needs to keep your mind from cluttering .

A clear mind and a jolly heart will help you  feel and share wholesome  happiness.

That way, you can Celebrate the freedom within U which would help you Celebrate Life better.

Now times for some laughs…………..hahahahhaha

My plant talks!!!!!!!

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My plant talks !!!!!!!!!

Today I was just wondering ,is love all about the love between human relationships ?
 Can love be extended  and exercised to other friend of ours  like a plant, a bird ,a place,a dog ( we can still imagine because it show its loyalty to us )
Can we love all of these ” non speaking ”  friends ,selflessly without caring once about us?
 Its sounds a little difficult .Why? because we feel , they are less emotive than us humans  and we are really selfish and  wouldn’t want to waste our  energy and time on something which doesn’t reciprocate .
 Well , I feel love, is the one major glue, which sticks us to anything and if we are in love with something we understand their pain and happiness as if its our own , even if they were  these “non speaking” friends who are unspoken about .In order to know and understand them better we need what is called as inner peace which seems to be lacking in this fierce competitive materialistic world of ours.

There are times, when  I am been labeled as crazy  ,I will tell you Why?
 I am in love with a small indoor plant and had called it my baby for the past 4 years .I take care of it by watering and feeding it when required  and while doing these, I initiate a live conversation with my baby in my own silence , which makes me understand its pain as if its my own .So much so that many a times , I even rush, to change its place to save it from the scorching sun .This might sound insane but that’s the extent  I am attached to it.I remember when I had gone for a trip abroad , I  gave clear  instructions to my friend as to how to  care of it  and believe me, I did shout on her when  I saw a  small  brown leaf on my baby, which confirmed that she had been left to fend for herself!!!!!!My baby, flowers twice a year and these are the times when my joys are at its peak .

These are  just few  of the many crazy love  instances of mine  .I tend to love  anything which crosses my path ,like I have these chirpy little pigeons who come to my window sill for a morsel of grain, at the same time everyday .They tend to litter the place a bit but the joy I get while watching them eat and play with each other is immense .During nights when its cold outside snowing heavily ,I just quickly close my eyes and pray to God for their safety .The days when they don’t turn up, I get worried as if they were my own children .

This crazy love of mine helps me  feel love in a lot number of ways ,everyday and makes my life worth living.

Why do I do it in spite of being called crazy  , simply because it makes me more alive and helps me become a  human in its purest sense .Didnt the word ” humane” evolve from us humans which resonates with compassion , mercy and kindness?
When you feel and share love with everything and everyone around , the world becomes a better to place to live in and one starts to understand the world the way  GOD made it .

This peculiar way of  caring, loving and exchanging emotions with my strange friends have helped me evolve ,understand myself and the world around me better and many a times even healed my pains and scars . It helps me multiply the state of inner peace within me ,which contributes towards cleansing and refreshing my thoughts and ideas constantly.

This is just one of the ways I celebrate my existence .

Time for laughs……..hahahahhah

Celebrate the life she gave birth to !!!!!!!!!

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Mother’s day just passed and as usual I called mom.I wished her and carried chit chatting about the unending serial sagas,her servant not turning up that day, and  before she could interrupt my talk, to  runaway to watch  her favourite soaps,I casually asked her , what gift would she  like .She happily and with no  second thoughts , said “Its your  happiness that I wish for and  nothing else“.Its been the same from the day I started asking her and I wondered, why her answer never changed with the passing years  .Maybe that’s how mothers are.I wouldn’t know till I became one.

A perfect gift for her has always stayed a mystery to me.

While walking the life’s long and tiring paths ,this question had always stayed deep inside me and the quest for a perfect answer was awaited  until………..

Just a few  days before , I got a call from one of my best friends .Even before she said anything ,I could very strangely feel the tears in her eyes and the glee in her voice  and I knew and  just waited for her to yell out “It’s a healthy baby boy “.She was running out of words and couldn’t express her happiness enough .Maybe that’s the after effects of becoming a mother . I strangely saw her change in an instant ,from a self-love kind of person to one filled, just with the endless thoughts of her precious newborn and the worries of his comfort and happiness in the coming days .I was astonished ,this was a whole new person altogether, of which I knew very little.
Then I quiet instantly remembered what Bhagwan  Shree Rajneesh had said .

The moment a child is born ,the mother is also born.She never existed before.”

Now that explains why my dear friend was acting this way .So maybe to have a baby is for a woman to be born again altogether.
I used to always blame God for the endless pains, which a woman go through  in her lifetime and had always wished to be a boy at least  in the next birth (according to Hinduism there are many births ).Very surprisingly ,I wouldnt wish the same now.Why?simply because how else would you get a chance  to create , nourish and feel – a life inside you and not  to forget the whole reborn thing !!!!!in the same life .That’s like a whole new discovery of one’s own self ,how exciting isntit?……I wouldnt trade this feeling for anything else under the sun.

All  Mothers are full of  selfless love ,bundles of care and are filled with tonnes of worries about their little ones ,who never seem to grow up in their eyes.

So, as all these thoughts crept  up my mind ,I knew that any number of gifts wouldn’t match up to the love, my own mother gave me and  though it might give her momentary happiness ,it wouldn’t last long .
In order to gift her a  blissful state and continuing happiness ,I would need to constantly take care of her precious one  and that’s ME for the rest of my life and celebrate every moment of the life she gave birth to .

So if ever you guys get depressed about things happening in your life which is not in your control and you feel helpless just close your eyes and think about your mom and her unconditional love for you .

Now time for some laughs……….


Do something which you never did before!!!!!!

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Often amidst busy schedules and responsibilities ,we lose the real selves and most of the time end up shouldering responsibilities and pleasing others.This unchanged and grueling lifestyle makes life boring and stale.

What we need is a quick way to rediscover yourself .One way I did it was ” doing something which I never did before“.

Drama, never was one of my favourites nor did I experience an urge to try it .The word drama just strangely sounded similar to boredom and big yawns  , until what happened next.
One of my family friend gave me tickets for a play ,which he was unable to go for.So battling a lot of  “don’t want to go ” thoughts and suppressing our lazy selves me and my husband, head to the  Art centre yesterday, just a few minutes before the play started.It was real different to see and be around people who enjoyed drama and arts, of which we knew nothing !!!!!!
As soon we arrived a lady at the door handed us a pamphlet  .A quick glance confirmed that  the play was “A LITTLE NIGHT MUSIC“.

I had visited the art centre for the first time ,it had a small cafeteria and lots of big and small rooms for various events and a medium-sized auditorium.We just kept to ourselves and quietly went and sat in our assigned places and waited for it to start.

The show started at 7:30 and it was marvellous.The pretty faces ,beautiful songs,lovely dresses ,and a mix of magical lights flooding its way onto the stage in different permutation  and combination.It was a feast to the eyes.The story was about love which triumphs at the end after a storm of confusion .Everyone in the play did a marvellous job  and I loved all the songs especially “Remember “and “the weekend in the country”.
The lady who portrayed  “Desiree Armfeldt” ,  played here part beautifully and  effortlessly.It also had a popular number, sung by “Petra” called “The Miller’s Son” ,which is quite popular on the web and has different versions of it  in YouTube .

The beautiful  saga continued , for the next  2 and half hours with a break in between .Though my husband was getting a little restless due to uncomfortable seats ,he too had his eyes grained on the stage the whole time.
At the end of it  ,we both knew  it was worth the time and effort, not  to forget the tunes were still playing on our   lips .I was  happy to discover that somewhere deep inside me ,was a small cute place for drama.We both decided that we definitely will make it to another play soon….

As for the play ,hats of to all who were involved in making it!!!!!Your hard work is appreciated and hope everybody likes it or falls in love with it like we did.

Hmmmm…..believe me, sometimes just discovering something  new about yourself can add a fresh taste  to your life and help you recharge .It doesn’t have to be drama ,it can be anything which you like but never tried or maybe something you never thought you would try.

Either way , it’s like tasting a new ice-cream ,you might or might not like it , but taking  the plunge is what is important here, because you are trying to discover a new “you“.

Lets celebrate life through rediscovering and reinventing oneself,again and again, to keep life from standing still.

Now time for some laughs ………….


About The Blog.

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That’s a complex question !!!!!!

Life is a long journey .

It’s a journey of challenges , love , happiness, sadness, loss , faith , hope, tears , laughter , success , failures, seasons ,friends , family ,children ,emotions , deceit ,darkness, light ,well wishers ,betrayers and many more .

We cannot be sure, that there would be unending flow of  happiness and positive light in our lives always .

There is a reason for the  dark things out there .To challenge us, get us out of our comfort zones, show us new paths ,lead us into another world .

In short, life shows us its different faces now and then and expect us to deal with it.

The only thing we can  do, is change the way  we perceive life and make an effort to stay happy  .We all have to bid goodbye to this beautiful world and exit from it one day ,then why do we cry over losses and frown and fret over things we don’t have .

Why not celebrate the life God has given us and play our best parts before we run out of time on this planet!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

How  2 Celebrate Life (H2CL) would picture two different categories. Before that, if you are thinking why H2cl ,let me tell you, it’s just my way of expressing my love for chemistry .I used to love mugging up all chemical formulas and writing those long equations !!!!!!!!Strange but true!!!

Okay , now the two categories would be —

Pearls Of Wisdom (PoW):

Lately, I realised ,that the biggest teacher is Life itself. It can love us  at times but can also show its ugly side in an instant.

So these pages will be the lessons, which my life taught me  so far which I would like to share it with everyone  .Why ? because ———

“Knowledge is for sharing” —- that’s my father’s favourite line and I truly believe in it . Somewhere , these lessons helped me appreciate my life better and celebrate it in the best way possible.

My love for Alba (ML4A):Second Category

I have been fortunate enough  to travel and experience different culture , from a very young age .Much  of the credit goes to my dad who worked for the   government. His honesty and upright nature meant a number of transfers to far and wide , not to forget his punishment transfers to some remote areas, after all he wasn’t quiet the favourite of many corrupt politicians. Anyways , all these life experiences ,taught me to love, really feel and study the varied communities, people ,traditions and learn to  respect them .

While studying for my Master’s in Aberdeen , I realised Scotland has a lot of potential but people are not aware of the beauty and variety it can offer them .So I always knew I wanted to give my bit to make this possible .

My Luv 4 Alba is a small attempt to make people aware the different colours and faces  of Scotland.


"One of the reasons I love Alba"